If you saw Big Fat Greek Wedding, you know that Windex plays heavily in the Greek home to fix all ills. I do recall a lot of it at my grandparents house, so maybe they got a huge case of it when they arrived dockside at Ellis Island back in 1906: “Hi, welcome to America: here’s your case of Windex–it fixes everything! ”
Wish I could fix all with one neat sweep! Here are a few Quick Tips to tackle your New Year Resolutions /challenges in bite-sized pieces:
1. CLARIFY your goals for the year. Make a bucket list of things important to you–not necessarily to everyone else. You will be more motivated when you’re passionately connected with your authentic goals.
2. COMMIT: GET A WITNESS! Pick someone you consider a dream supporter, NOT a dream squasher! Ask them to ask you if you did that one task by a certain deadline. Tell them your reward/consequence if you did or didn’t. They can be on the celebration side if you did. Ask them to come up with a negative consequence if you don’t do the step.
3. CANCEL clutter, things, activities…yes, even toxic people from your world. Renew your relationship with your “Delete” key and go on a ‘Delete Fest” with spam emails, unsubscribe to mailing lists, clear out duplicate files (digital and paper), stop going to those boring parties, meetings, events, and just say “no” to the vampire life-sucking people who hang on because you allow it.
4. CREATE the energy-building connections you crave. Be proactive. Stop waiting for opportunities to ride up on that white horse; make them happen-one step at a time.
5. CONCENTRATE and REINFORCE your goals with obvious visual cues: signage on your desk, PC, mirror, near your clock, etc.
6. CELEBRATE and ACCELERATE! Have your own Prize Closet. Stock it with things and outings to reward your diligence. Indulge yourself in . something you’ve always wanted to do. Some people have a guilty pleasure of just hiding away for a few precious minutes and reading. You’d be surprised how a simple pleasure can really recharge your spirits.
Alright, now, go out there and use that WINDEX! You have at least 6 different squirts to choose from. OPA!
Do people smile when coming toward it, or when they’re running away from it? Connectivity can be a powerful force to optimize your success.
In today’s crazy work world, keeping your team engaged is critical to ensure a thriving organization. When your team is into their work, they get more done, feel pumped, and help create a cool vibe at work that spurs innovation.
So, what’s this employee engagement thing all about, and how can you make it happen?
Understanding Employee Engagement
In a nutshell, it’s about making your workplace feel like an awesome place for your team to make the magic happen for those you serve. It’s not just about employees liking their job; it’s about them feeling emotionally attached to your company’s mission and values. You can create a vibe that literally transforms your culture.
How do you get your team to go all-in? Well, a few key things come into play:
Meaningful Work
Let your team do stuff that matters. When their work is exciting and meaningful, they’re more likely to be all in.
Trust in Leadership
Be the kind of leader your team can count on. When they trust you, they’ll feel more valued and engaged.
Goals that Make Sense
Help your team see how their work fits into the big picture. When they know they’re making a difference, they’ll be more stoked to do their best.
Room to Grow
Give your team chances to level up. Whether it’s through training or new challenges, when they see opportunities to grow, they’ll be more into it.
Awesome Relationships
Make sure your team gets along like peanut butter and jelly. When they feel supported and valued by their coworkers, they’ll be happier and more engaged.
Company Pride
Help your team be proud to be part of your crew. Show off your company’s values and achievements, and let them know they’re making a positive impact.
But hey, it’s not all sunshine and rainbows. Sometimes stuff gets in the way of engagement, like:
Confusion
Make sure your team knows what’s up. When things are unclear, they’ll feel lost and disengaged.
Disrespect
Treat your team like the rock stars they are. When they feel respected, they’ll be way more into their work.
Communication
Keep the convo flowing. When you’re not keeping your team in the loop, they’ll feel left out and disengaged.
Empowerment
Let your team take charge. When they feel like they have control over their work, they’ll be more motivated to master their everyday challenges.
Feedback
Give your team props for a job well done. When they know they’re doing awesome, they’ll keep bringing their A-game.
Bottom line? Make your workplace feel like a place they belong and your team will be happier, more productive, and ready to take on the world.
I travel an average of 150 days a year, speaking and consulting, and have seen a vast assortment of business travel attire. Does it matter what you wear on the way to a business event?
Let’s cut to the chase: when you’re traveling during business hours, what you wear depends on the perception you wish to convey.
We’ve all wondered about “business casual” during travel. If you’re in a role where standard business attire is the norm, should you stick with that when traveling? Does “travel attire” change how people see you?
First Impressions Matter
Like it or not, people judge. Your clothes are a big part of that. Traveling during business hours means you could run into colleagues, clients, or future partners. Dressing the part means you’re always ready for those surprise encounters and impromptu meetings.
In one survey, “Seventy percent of executives said they perceive employees dressed in suits to be more senior level, while 60 % said those in suits are taken more seriously.”
If you’re aiming to impress, you better believe your outfit plays a crucial role.
Business Casual: The Happy Medium
Business casual is the new black; slacks, khakis, collared shirts, blouses, and maybe a blazer. It’s the sweet spot between formal and comfortable. There are even very classic looking untuckable shirts that can hit the biz casual mark well.
Perfect for long flights or train rides where a full suit feels like a straitjacket, business casual is versatile enough for both travel and post-travel meetings, saving you a wardrobe change.
The Case for Full Business Attire
For some, sticking to traditional business attire is non-negotiable. Suits, ties, and tailored dresses convey authority and credibility. Dressing up also helps you stay in a professional mindset, ready to jump into meetings or negotiations as soon as you land.
Wearing standard business attire can set you apart, especially in industries where appearance is paramount. In my own experience, I dress in my presentation outfit in case the airline loses my luggage. Trust me — a midnight shopping trip to the all-night Walmart doesn’t leave you many fashion choices!
Travel Attire and Perception
You already know that how you dress can influence how people see you. Formal attire can command respect and show you mean business.
On the flip side, business casual can make you seem approachable and adaptable, just don’t get too casual. Polished but comfortable is the goal.
Factors to Consider
You can save a lot of time and effort by making sure you ask your client about the dress protocol at your event. If still unsure, here are few tips to keep in mind:
Trip Purpose: Routine travel? Business casual works. High-stakes meetings? Go formal. The stakes of your trip should guide your attire.
Industry Norms: Finance or law? Stick to formal. Creative or tech? Business casual might be fine. Different industries have different expectations.
Comfort: Long journey? Opt for wrinkle-resistant fabrics and comfy shoes. Nobody wants to arrive looking like they slept in their clothes.
Cultural Norms: Respect local dress codes. What’s considered professional in one country might not be in another.
Personal Brand: Your attire reflects your professional identity. Be consistent. Your clothes should tell the story you want others to hear.
Practical Tips
Plan Ahead: Pack versatile pieces that mix and match easily. A blazer can upgrade any outfit.
Pack Smart: Use wrinkle-free fabrics and pack carefully to avoid creases.
Comfort is Key: Prioritize comfort, especially for long trips. Quality shoes and breathable fabrics are a must.
Accessorize: Keep it simple and professional. A polished look doesn’t need flashy accessories.
Be Adaptable: Keep a change of clothes handy for last-minute adjustments.
Imagine you’re on a six-hour flight to a major client presentation. You could go with a full suit, but halfway through the flight, you’re feeling stiff and uncomfortable.
Or, you opt for business casual; slacks, a dress shirt, and a blazer. You’re comfortable, presentable, and ready to hit the ground running upon arrival.
Versatility and practicality win the day.
Extra Comfort and Style Tips for Travelers
Layering is Key: Airplanes and trains can have unpredictable temperatures. Layering allows you to adjust your clothing to stay comfortable. A cardigan or light jacket can be both practical and stylish.
Quality Over Quantity: Invest in high-quality, versatile pieces that can be dressed up or down. A well-made blazer or a pair of tailored pants can elevate your look without sacrificing comfort.
Grooming Matters: No matter how well-dressed you are, poor grooming can detract from your overall appearance. Ensure you are well-groomed, with neat hair and nails, and a fresh look.
Tech-Friendly Attire: Modern travel often involves carrying gadgets. Look for attire with smart pockets and compartments that can safely store your phone, tablet, or other essentials.
Stay Fresh: Long journeys can make you feel less than fresh. Pack travel-size hygiene products like deodorant, wipes, and breath mints to keep yourself looking, and feeling, your best.
Bottom Line
The VP of an international training firm said, “I wouldn’t normally think of approaching a casually-dressed passenger on a business issue. ‘
Flight attendants admit they treat well-dressed passengers with a little more deference than those with a flip-flop wearing, beachcomber look.
An HR director I spoke with admitted she enters the plane and may converse with a fellow passenger. She has her antenna up to read the room, so to speak. She tries to sort out whether they seem to be in a business or vacation mode. In short, she feels like their appearance does influence whether or not she would engage in a business discussion versus a vacation one.
In the end, the choice is yours. I always dress in an outfit in which I would present on the rare chance they lose my luggage. The all-night Walmart is not full of presentation-ready options, trust me!
Your choice is in how you wish to be perceived before the conversations begin.
PS–I also always place a copy of my latest book in the seat back pocket or leave it on my seat when I visit the lav.
Today, we are constantly bombarded with information. Emails, social media updates, news alerts, etc.. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed and overloaded. For us Type A personalities, the instinct is to keep moving, keep doing, and keep achieving. However, an integral part of productivity involves the ability to step back and assess our systems.
Ask yourself: “What’s working?” and “What needs work?” or perhaps “What do I need to Stop / Start / or Continue to keep on track?” These are crucial questions for ensuring that our efforts are both constant and effective. Silence, indeed, is golden.
A Walk in the Garden
Recently, I took a peaceful, lingering walk through a zen sculpture garden. Initially, it was challenging to transition from my high-intensity mindset to a more relaxed state, allowing myself to fully appreciate my surroundings. The sun was warm, the breeze was cool, birds were chirping, and fountains were gurgling. Eventually, I found my peaceful zone. This experience allowed me to reflect on my systems and make mental notes on how to enhance them.
Imagine trying to change the oil in your car while it’s still moving. Impossible, right? You need to pull over occasionally and take a pit stop for progress. This walk served as my pit stop, allowing me to recharge and refocus.
The Importance of Mindfulness
Mindfulness is the practice of being present and fully engaged in the moment. Mindfulness has been shown to reduce stress and increase productivity. According to a study published in the Journal of Occupational Health Psychology, employees who practiced mindfulness reported lower levels of stress and higher levels of job satisfaction.
Incorporating mindfulness into your daily routine doesn’t require a complete overhaul of your schedule. Simple practices like taking a few deep breaths, going for a walk, or even just sitting quietly for a few minutes can make a significant difference.
Strategies for Staying Mindful
Schedule Your Zen Zone: Just as you schedule meetings and deadlines, schedule time for mindfulness. Whether it’s a daily five-minute meditation or a weekly walk in the park, put it on your calendar.
Practice Deep Breathing: Deep breathing exercises can help reduce stress and improve focus. Try the 4-7-8 technique: breathe in for 4 seconds, hold for 7 seconds, and exhale for 8 seconds.
Disconnect to Reconnect: Set aside time each day to disconnect from technology. Turn off your phone, step away from your computer, and take a moment to reconnect with yourself.
Mindful Eating: Instead of eating at your desk or in front of the TV, take the time to enjoy your meal. Pay attention to the flavors, textures, and aromas. This practice can help you feel more satisfied and reduce overeating.
Gratitude Journaling: Take a few minutes each day to write down three things you’re grateful for. This practice can shift your focus from what’s going wrong to what’s going right, improving your overall outlook.
The Science Behind It
The benefits of mindfulness are not just anecdotal. Research shows that mindfulness can have a profound impact on our mental and physical health.
A study published in the journal Psychological Science found that mindfulness meditation can improve cognitive function and increase working memory capacity.
Another study, published in the American Journal of Psychiatry, found that mindfulness-based cognitive therapy can be as effective as medication in preventing relapse in individuals with recurrent depression.
A Call to Action
Now, I challenge you to ask yourself: “When can I schedule my zen zone this week? Can I put that on my weekly calendar from now on?” Give it a try and see how it impacts your productivity and overall well-being.
Remember to enjoy the journey. Taking time to breathe in, breathe out, and repeat can make all the difference in navigating the chaos of daily life. Embrace the zen zone and discover the power of mindful productivity.
Give it a try and pass it on!
Remember to enjoy the journey, Kelli V.
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References: Hülsheger, U. R., Alberts, H. J., Feinholdt, A., & Lang, J. W. Benefits of mindfulness at work: The role of mindfulness in emotion regulation, emotional exhaustion, and job satisfaction. Journal of Occupational Health Psychology, 18(3), 362.
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Segal, Z. V., Williams, J. M., & Teasdale, J. D. Mindfulness-based cognitive therapy for depression. American Journal of Psychiatry, 160(4), 693-699.
Are you a hamster on a wheel or a rocket to the moon?
As Alex MacKenzie astutely observed, “Nothing is easier than being busy, and nothing more difficult than being effective.” But fear not, fellow productivity enthusiasts! This guide will help you trade your hamster wheel for a rocket ship, propelling you towards tangible results and meaningful connections. Buckle up, because we’re about to transform your busy buzz into a symphony of success!
The Busy Trap: Why Motion Doesn’t Equal Progress
Let’s face it: we’re all guilty of the “busy bee” syndrome. We buzz around, ticking off tasks, and feeling accomplished. But at the end of the day, what do we really have to show for it?
According to a study by RescueTime, the average knowledge worker is only productive for 2 hours and 48 minutes per day, despite working an average of 8.8 hours. That’s a lot of motion with little progress!
The key to breaking free from this trap is to distinguish between motion and progress. Motion feels good – it gives us the illusion of productivity. Progress, on the other hand, moves us tangibly closer to our goals.
Action Step: Before starting your next task, ask yourself: “Will this activity directly contribute to my desired outcome?” If the answer is no, it might be time to reassess your priorities.
The Power of Metrics: Defining Your North Star
To make real progress, you need a clear destination. Enter the world of metrics – your trusty compass in the sea of busy work.
Dr. Gail Matthews, a psychology professor at Dominican University, found that people are 42% more likely to achieve their goals just by writing them down. But don’t stop there – define specific, measurable results that signal progress.
For example, instead of “improve client relationships,” try “increase client satisfaction scores by 15% this quarter.” This gives you a concrete target to aim for and measure against.
Strategy: For each of your major goals, define at least one measurable metric that indicates progress. Post these metrics where you can see them daily.
The AM/PM Question Technique: Your Daily Progress Check-In
While metrics are crucial, don’t forget the human element. Building strong relationships is often the key to unlocking major progress in both personal and professional realms.
Dr. John Gottman, renowned for his work on relationships, found that successful relationships have a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions. This principle applies beyond romantic partnerships – it’s valuable in all interpersonal dynamics.
To leverage this knowledge:
Now that you have your metrics, it’s time to put them into action with the AM/PM Question Technique. This simple yet powerful strategy keeps you focused on progress throughout the day.
Here’s how it works:
AM Question (Before): “What exactly must I accomplish in this [task/meeting/project] to move closer to my goal?”
PM Question (After): “What tangible progress did I make towards my goal?”
Let’s say you’re a sales manager aiming to increase team performance. Your AM question might be: “What specific strategies can I share in today’s team meeting to boost our conversion rates?” Your PM reflection: “Did I successfully communicate those strategies, and what immediate actions did the team commit to?”
This technique not only keeps you focused but also provides valuable data for improving your effectiveness over time.
Productivity Power Move: Implement the AM/PM Question Technique for your three most important daily tasks for one week. Notice how it impacts your productivity and focus.
Relationship Building: The Human Side of Progress
Keep a “relationship scorecard” for key professional and personal connections. Aim for that 5:1 ratio of positive interactions.
Use the “interest database” technique: Keep notes on people’s interests, family, and aspirations. Reference these in conversations to deepen connections.
Practice active listening: In your next five conversations, challenge yourself to ask at least two follow-up questions based on what the other person says.
Success Strategy: Identify your three most important professional relationships. Commit to one purposeful, positive interaction with each person this week.
The Visual Motivation Hack: Surrounding Yourself with Progress Prompts
Out of sight, out of mind – but the reverse is also true. By strategically placing visual reminders around your workspace, you can keep your focus locked on progress.
A study in the Journal of Environmental Psychology found that employees who have control over the design and layout of their workspace are not only happier and healthier — they’re up to 32% more productive.
Try these progress-promoting prompts:
“Go for PROGRESS!” – A bold reminder of your overall mission.
“What’s the TANGIBLE RESULT of this task?” – Encourages you to focus on outcomes, not just activities.
“Is this the BEST USE of MY TIME RIGHT NOW?” – Helps you prioritize effectively.
Get creative with your reminders – use post-it notes, digital wallpapers, or even custom coffee mugs. The key is to make them impossible to ignore.
Action Step: Create and place at least three visual progress prompts in your workspace this week. Notice how they influence your decision-making and focus.
Maximizing Your ROTI: The Ultimate Productivity Metric
ROTI (Return on Time Invested) is the holy grail of productivity metrics. It’s not just about being busy or even making progress – it’s about making the BEST possible progress with your limited time.
To calculate your ROTI:
Estimate the value of the outcome (in dollars, satisfaction points, or any relevant unit).
Divide that by the time invested.
The higher the ratio, the better your ROTI.
For example, if a 30-minute client call results in a $1000 sale, your ROTI is $33.33 per minute. Compare this to an hour-long meeting that results in no tangible outcome (ROTI = $0 per minute).
A study by Atlassian found that the average employee spends 31 hours per month in unproductive meetings. Imagine the ROTI boost if even half of that time was reclaimed!
Momentum Maker: For one week, track the ROTI of your major activities. Identify your highest and lowest ROTI tasks. Plan to do more of the former and delegate or eliminate the latter.
From Busy Bee to Productivity Powerhouse
Congratulations! You’re now armed with the tools to transform your busy buzz into a symphony of success. Remember, the goal isn’t to do more – it’s to achieve more. By focusing on measurable progress, nurturing key relationships, and maximizing your ROTI, you’ll not only accomplish more but also find greater satisfaction in your work and life.
So, the next time someone asks, “How are you?” instead of defaulting to “Busy!” try “Making progress!” Because now, you truly will be.
Ready to leave the busy work behind and embrace true productivity? Your journey to effective progress starts now. What’s the first change you’ll make today?
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Picture this: You’re meticulously crafting your to-do list, color-coding each task, and fantasizing about laminating the whole shebang. Sound familiar? We’ve all been there, desperately clinging to the illusion of control in a world that’s about as predictable as a cat on catnip. What if I told you that the key to unlocking stress-free productivity and adaptable success lies not in perfecting Plan A, but in embracing Plan B?
Let’s unpack the art of flexible planning, explore how it can transform your relationships, and uncover expert strategies for turning unexpected detours into highways to success. It’s time to laminate your mindset, not your to-do list!
The Lamination Temptation: Why We Crave Structure (and Why It’s a Trap)
Let’s start with a confession: I once met a woman who was so enamored with structure that she wanted to laminate her to-do list. I get it – there’s something oddly satisfying about a pristine, unchangeable plan. But here’s the kicker: life has a wicked sense of humor, and it loves nothing more than throwing a wrench into our carefully laid plans.
According to a study by psychologists at Harvard University, our brains are hardwired to crave certainty and structure. This is why we’re drawn to rigid planning like moths to a flame. However, the same study found that individuals who maintain flexibility in their goal pursuit are 35% more likely to achieve their objectives.
So, how do we strike a balance between structure and flexibility? Enter the magic of Plan B.
The Power of “What’s Plan B?”: Rewiring Your Brain for Solutions
Asking “What’s Plan B?” isn’t just a cute mental exercise – it’s a powerful cognitive tool that can literally rewire your brain for success. Neuroscientists at Stanford University have found that simply considering alternative options activates the prefrontal cortex, the area of the brain responsible for problem-solving and creative thinking.
Try this: The next time you’re faced with a challenge, ask yourself, “What’s Plan B?” even if you don’t have a clue what it might be. You’ll be amazed at how quickly your mind shifts from worry mode to solution mode. It’s like flipping a switch from “Oh crap!” to “Challenge accepted!”
Dr. Carol Dweck, renowned psychologist and author of “Mindset: The New Psychology of Success,” emphasizes the importance of cultivating a growth mindset. She states, “The view you adopt for yourself profoundly affects the way you lead your life.” By regularly asking “What’s Plan B?”, you’re training your brain to see obstacles as opportunities for growth and innovation.
From To-Do Lists to Ta-Da Lists: Strategies for Flexible Planning
Now that we’ve established the importance of Plan B thinking, let’s explore some practical strategies for incorporating flexibility into your planning process:
The 80/20 Rule: Plan 80% of your time and leave 20% for unexpected opportunities or challenges.
Time Blocking with Buffers: Schedule tasks in blocks, but include buffer time between them for flexibility.
Priority Triage: Categorize tasks as “Must Do,” “Should Do,” and “Nice to Do.” Focus on the “Must Do” items and be flexible with the rest.
The Weekly Review: Set aside time each week to reflect on what worked, what didn’t, and adjust your plans accordingly.
Example: If you’re juggling projects, try the “Three Plans” approach. For every major project, create a Plan A (ideal scenario), a Plan B (realistic backup), and a Plan C (worst-case scenario). This strategy can help you and your team navigate unexpected challenges with grace and humor, earning you a reputation for adaptability in a notoriously unpredictable climate.
Relationship Alchemy: Using Plan B Thinking to Strengthen Connections
Believe it or not, the magic of Plan B thinking extends far beyond your to-do list. It can work wonders in your relationships too. A study by the Gottman Institute found that couples who demonstrate flexibility and willingness to compromise during conflicts are 80% more likely to report high relationship satisfaction.
Here are some ways to apply Plan B thinking to your relationships:
Active Listening: When conflicts arise, listen for the underlying needs and emotions. This opens up possibilities for creative solutions (Plan B, C, or even D!).
Expectation Management: Communicate your plans and be open about potential changes. This builds trust and reduces disappointment.
Collaborative Problem-Solving: Involve your partner or friends in brainstorming alternative solutions. This strengthens bonds and leads to more creative outcomes.
Consider that being open to alternative perspectives aligns perfectly with Plan B thinking.
The Knowledge Advantage: Leveraging Information for Stronger Connections
Understanding someone’s preferences, motivations, and quirks can be a powerful tool for building and maintaining relationships.
Here’s how to use this knowledge to your advantage:
Create a “Relationship Dossier”: Keep a mental (or actual) note of important details about your friends, family, and colleagues.
Personalize Your Approach: Use your knowledge to tailor your communication and gestures to each individual.
Show Genuine Interest: Ask follow-up questions about things they’ve mentioned before. This demonstrates that you value them and pay attention.
Example: Consider keeping a “client preferences profile” – a detailed document he maintains with personal information about each client. From their coffee preferences to their children’s names, this knowledge allows you to create personalized experiences that strengthen business relationships and often lead to unexpected opportunities (Hello, Plan B!).
From Stress to Success: Embracing the Plan B Mindset
By now, you’re probably wondering, “How can I fully embrace this Plan B lifestyle?” Here are some final tips to help you make the shift:
Celebrate Adaptability: Recognize and reward yourself for successfully navigating unexpected changes.
Practice Mindfulness: Stay present and aware of your surroundings. This helps you spot potential Plan B opportunities.
Cultivate Curiosity: Approach challenges with a sense of wonder rather than dread. Ask, “What can I learn from this?”
Build a Support Network: Surround yourself with people who appreciate and encourage flexibility.
The ability to pivot gracefully is more valuable than any laminated to-do list. By embracing Plan B thinking, you’re not just preparing for the unexpected – you’re opening yourself up to a world of possibilities, both in your personal productivity and your relationships.
So, the next time life throws you a curveball (and trust me, it will), take a deep breath, smile, and ask yourself, “What’s Plan B?” Your stress levels will thank you, your relationships will flourish, and who knows? You might just stumble upon a Plan C that’s even better than you could have imagined.
Remember, life’s too short to laminate your plans. Instead, laminate your mindset with flexibility, curiosity, and a dash of humor. Now go forth and conquer, you adaptable superstar!
Ready to embrace the Plan B lifestyle? Start small: Choose one project or relationship this week and intentionally brainstorm alternative approaches. Share your experience in the comments below – we’d love to hear how Plan B thinking is transforming your life!
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Greetings! So how’s your habit changing going? If your progress mirrors mine, it’s probably been a rollercoaster ride. Sometimes we find that our life-enhancements (or lack of fulfilling them) pack on more stress than we anticipated.
Let’s start with a candid look at my resolutions over the last few years:
Two years ago, I resolved to join a gym and work out every single day
Last year, I resolved to join a gym and work out 3x a week
This year, I resolved to drive by my gym at least 3x a week
Clearly, my enthusiasm has scaled back, but hey, at least I’m consistent with my drive-bys! The moral of this story? Don’t let the stress of new habits get to you. Give yourself a break and take credit for the effort you’re putting into creating new habits.
The 21-Day Myth and the Real Timeline
You’ve probably heard that it takes 21 days to change a habit. This magical number, popularized by Dr. Maxwell Maltz in his book Psycho-Cybernetics, has stuck around in self-help lore.
However, recent research from University College London suggests it actually takes about 66 days for a new behavior to become automatic (Lally et al., 2009).
So, if you’re struggling after three weeks, don’t despair — you’re just getting started.
Embrace the Discomfort
Work through the discomfort by knowing you’re being positive and proactive. Discomfort is actually a good sign of your growing pains. Think of it as the awkward middle school phase of habit formation.
Focus and Visibility
Stay focused on your new habits. Print them out on a large sheet of paper and hang them somewhere you will see them often — your desk at work, your bathroom mirror, or even on the fridge. This constant visual reminder keeps your goals at the forefront of your mind.
Avoid Overload
Don’t overload yourself with new things. If you have a long list of improvements (or self-remodeling, as I like to call it), only tackle one or two before moving on.
Research from the American Psychological Association highlights that multitasking can reduce productivity by up to 40% (APA, 2013).
Focus on a few key changes, and you’ll be more likely to stick with them.
The Power of Small Wins
Start with small, manageable goals. The concept of “small wins” can be incredibly powerful. Celebrating the minor victories can keep you motivated.
For example, if you’re trying to get into the habit of exercising, start with a 10-minute walk each day. Productivity expert James Clear, author of Atomic Habits, emphasizes that small changes can lead to significant results over time. He calls this the “aggregation of marginal gains.” Fancy!
Habit Stacking
One effective strategy for building new habits is called “habit stacking”. The idea is to take an existing habit and stack a new behavior on top of it. For example, if you already have a habit of drinking coffee every morning, you could stack a new habit of doing five minutes of stretching while your coffee brews.
Accountability Partners
Find an accountability partner. Sharing your goals with someone else can increase your chances of success.
According to a study conducted by the American Society of Training and Development (ASTD), you have a 65% chance of completing a goal if you commit to someone. And, if you have a specific accountability appointment with that person, your chances increase to 95%.
The Environment Matters
Your environment plays a crucial role in habit formation. Make it easier to stick to good habits by tweaking your surroundings. Want to read more? Leave books around your house. Trying to eat healthier? Keep fruits and veggies at eye level in your fridge.
The Two-Minute Rule
David Allen, the productivity guru behind Getting Things Done, suggests the two-minute rule: if a task takes less than two minutes, do it immediately. This can be applied to habits as well. If you want to start journaling, just write for two minutes a day. The idea is to make the habit so easy you can’t say no.
Track Your Progress
Keep track of your progress. Use a habit tracker app or a simple journal to log your daily achievements. Monitoring your progress provides a sense of accomplishment, but also helps you identify patterns and obstacles.
Celebrate the Wins
Don’t forget to celebrate your successes, no matter how small. Positive reinforcement is key to habit formation. Reward yourself when you hit milestones. Maybe a small treat for a week of consistent workouts or a new book after a month of daily reading.
The Right Mindset
Remember, you’re either moving toward your goal or away from it. You can only inhale or exhale at any given moment — you can’t do both at the same time. Focus on the end result of what your new habits will accomplish.
Developing a growth mindset, as proposed by psychologist Carol Dweck, can be instrumental in this process. Believing that you can change and grow through effort can make a significant difference in achieving your goals.
Stay Light!
Humor and a positive attitude can make any journey more enjoyable. Stay light and don’t take yourself too seriously. If you stumble, laugh it off and get back on track. Remember, even the best-laid plans can go awry, but that doesn’t mean you should give up.
Training Tip: Keep It Fresh
Move motivational posters around your staff’s office area. This helps achieve a “new” look and keeps them from becoming part of the wallpaper. Consider rotating them on a regular basis. Fresh visuals can invigorate your team and keep motivation high.
Real-Life Strategies
Here’s an anecdote for you: I decided to meditate daily. Day one, I sat on my mat, closed my eyes, and promptly fell asleep. I was aiming for 20 minutes but clearly needed to adjust.
I scaled back to five minutes and, over time, gradually increased the duration. Now, meditation is a non-negotiable part of my routine. The key? Start small and be kind to yourself.
Another strategy that worked wonders for me was the “Seinfeld Strategy.” Comedian Jerry Seinfeld reportedly used a wall calendar and a big red marker to create a chain of daily tasks. Each day he completed his task, he would mark a big red “X” over that day. His goal was to never break the chain. This visual representation of progress can be incredibly motivating.
Changing habits should feel like tweaking tune-ups, not major overhauls. Soon, newer habits will replace old ones. Whether it’s driving by the gym a few times a week or stacking a new habit onto an old one, every step forward is progress.
Remember, you’re either moving toward your goal or away from it. Focus on the end result and what your new habits will accomplish. Stay light and keep a sense of humor about the journey. After all, the road to self-improvement is paved with good intentions, a few setbacks, and plenty of laughs.
Stay focused, stay positive, and most importantly, stay light!
Ever feel like your interactions could use a little extra spark? Maybe your relationships are starting to feel a bit flat, like soda that’s lost its fizz? Don’t worry, we’ve got the perfect fix for that: the Four P’s. These simple but powerful principles—Positive, Polite, Professional, and Proactive—are your ticket to becoming a relationship expert in no time.
In a world where trust is as rare as a unicorn, mastering the Four P’s can help you create deeper, more meaningful connections. Let’s break down how these principles can help you build relationships that are extraordinary.
The Power of Positivity: More Than Just Optimism
We’ve all encountered the person who can find a cloud in every silver lining. Positivity isn’t about ignoring challenges; it’s about framing situations in a way that motivates others without ignoring reality.
Research shows that positive communication can improve relationship satisfaction by up to 40%. Instead of saying, “We can’t afford that new coffee machine.” try, “How can we enhance our break room without breaking the bank?” The message is the same, but the tone is a lot more encouraging.
Pro Tip: Start your day by listing three things you’re grateful for. It’s like giving your attitude a morning boost!
But that’s not all—studies also show that positive leaders can increase team productivity by 31%. A simple shift in mindset can unlock your team’s potential and make a big difference.
Strategy for improvement: Try adopting the “Yes, and…” technique from improv. Instead of dismissing ideas, build on them. It’s a great way to keep the conversation flowing and encourage creativity.
Politeness: A Simple Way to Build Trust
Remember when your mom made sure you said “please” and “thank you”? Turns out, she was onto something important. A study by Smith and Jones found that using basic courtesies can increase perceived trustworthiness by up to 30%. Politeness goes beyond good manners—it’s about showing respect and consideration for others.
I once worked with a client who had a reputation for being super sarcastic. After we focused on adding more literal and productive language to his emails, his team’s productivity increased by 15%, and he stopped receiving passive-aggressive post-it notes on his desk. Coincidence? I think not.
Expert Insight: Dr. Emily Post (no relation to the etiquette guru) suggests that addressing people by name is one of the simplest ways to build rapport. It’s a small gesture, but it can have a big impact.
Professionalism: Keeping It Classy
Imagine you’re constantly surrounded by a swarm of paparazzi—what would you want them to catch on camera?
Character is what we do—even when no one’s looking. Like return shopping carts to the cart barn.
Professionalism isn’t about dressing up, it’s about maintaining high standards, behaving with integrity, and making decisions that reflect your values. A survey by Professional Quarterly found that 85% of employers rank professionalism as one of the top factors in career advancement.
Before making a decision, ask yourself, “Would I be okay if this ended up on the front page of the New York Times? Or on our company’s bulletin board?” If the answer is no, it might be time to reconsider.
Strategy for improvement: Create a personal brand statement. Think of it as a mission statement, but for your professional identity. For example: “I aim to provide thoughtful solutions with integrity and a touch of humor.” Or “I help (who) with (what).
Proactivity: Anticipate, Don’t React
Being proactive is like being a superhero—without the cape. It’s about spotting problems before they arise and taking action early. Proactive leaders are 60% more likely to meet project deadlines, according to research by Proactive Partners.
Instead of waiting for problems to explode, take the initiative to solve them before they escalate.
Expert Insight: Dr. Jane Goodall, renowned anthropologist, reminds us, “What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make.” Being proactive is about choosing to make a positive impact, even in the small moments.
I worked with a “Proactive Friday” policy, where they would connect to address potential issues before they turned into real problems. Team members agreed to initiate and address issues in person instead of countless time-wasting email tags. The result? A 40% drop in last-minute emergencies and a 100% increase in weekend enjoyment.
The Four P’s in Action: A Recipe for Success
Now that we’ve broken down the Four P’s, let’s see them in action.
Scenario: Your team just missed a major deadline.
Negative Approach: “You all messed up. We’re in big trouble.”
Four P’s Approach: “Okay, even though we’ve hit a setback (Positive), how can we best we can turn this around (Professional). I appreciate everyone’s hard work so far (Polite). Let’s work together to find a solution and get back on track (Proactive).”
The difference Is clear. One approach makes everyone want to update their resumes, and the other inspires them to roll up their sleeves and get to work.
Spread the P’s and Watch Your Relationships Thrive
The Four P’s aren’t just corporate jargon—they’re the foundation for building trust, strengthening relationships, and becoming the kind of person others want to be around. So, the next time you interact with someone, ask yourself: How many of the Four P’s can I apply?
Remember, great relationships don’t happen overnight. But with consistent practice of the Four P’s, you’ll be well on your way to becoming a relationship rockstar. Start by applying the Four P’s in your next five interactions. Track how it changes the way you connect with others. Who knows? You might just start a Four P’s revolution.
In the grand scheme of things, the Four P’s are like the secret sauce that makes everything taste better. So, use them generously, and watch your relationships transform from ordinary to exceptional.
Here’s What WON’T Work to Boost Better Interactions:
References:
Achor, S. (2012). Positive Intelligence. Harvard Business Review, 90(1-2), 100-102.
Brown, L. (2020). The Importance of Professionalism in the Workplace. Professional Quarterly, 45(2), 78-92.
Johnson, A., Smith, B., & Jones, C. (2018). The Impact of Positive Communication on Relationship Satisfaction. Journal of Interpersonal Relations, 32(4), 567-582.
Lee, K. (2021). Proactive Leadership and Project Success Rates. Proactive Partners Quarterly Report, 15(3), 45-60.
Smith, D., & Jones, E. (2019). The Power of Politeness: A Study on Perceived Trustworthiness. Journal of Social Psychology, 55(2), 123-137.
If you’ve seen My Big Fat Greek Wedding, you’ll recall the running joke about Windex being a miracle solution for life’s problems. While it might not solve everything, the idea of a simple fix resonates with us all. Wouldn’t it be great to have an all-purpose solution to tackle the challenges life throws our way?
While we can’t hand you a magical spray bottle, we can equip you with practical strategies to take on your goals, organize your life, and renew your energy this year. Here’s your roadmap to success—consider it your metaphorical Windex!
1. Clarify Your Goals for the Year
Start with clarity. Write down what truly matters to you—authentic goals that spark your passion. Research shows that people are 42% more likely to achieve goals simply by writing them down. Whether your aspirations involve career growth, learning a new skill, or prioritizing well-being, clarity transforms ideas into actionable plans.
Brainstorm Your Vision: Set aside 20 minutes to jot down everything you want to accomplish this year. Let your imagination run wild—no goal is too big or too small.
Prioritize Your List: Choose the top 3-5 goals that matter most to you right now. These should align with your passions and values.
Break It Down: Divide each goal into smaller, manageable steps with specific deadlines. A clear roadmap will make even the biggest dreams feel achievable.
2. Commit: Get a Witness!
Accountability is the secret sauce to achieving goals. Share your intentions with a trusted colleague, friend, or mentor who can check in on your progress. Studies indicate that having an accountability partner can boost your chances of success by up to 95%.
Pick Your Partner: Identify someone you trust—someone who encourages you but also holds you accountable. Share your top goal with them.
Set Regular Check-Ins: Schedule weekly or biweekly updates with your accountability partner to review progress, discuss challenges, and recalibrate plans if needed.
Create Consequences and Rewards: Establish a system where you reward yourself for completing tasks (like a dinner out) or face small consequences for falling short (like donating to a cause you dislike).
3. Cancel Clutter, Things, Activities…Yes, Even Toxic People
Decluttering isn’t just about organizing—it’s about freeing up mental and physical space to focus on what truly matters. Start with your workspace, digital files, or even your calendar. Clearing the clutter reduces stress and increases efficiency. And don’t forget to declutter your relationships—set boundaries with toxic influences to preserve your energy.
Start Small: Dedicate 10 minutes daily to clear a drawer, desktop, or email folder. Small wins build momentum for larger decluttering projects.
Use the “3-Box Rule”: For physical items, sort into three categories: Keep, Donate, and Trash. Be ruthless about letting go of what doesn’t serve you.
Cut Toxic Commitments: Review your calendar and say “no” to meetings, events, or relationships that drain your energy without adding value.
4. Create Energy-Building Connections You Crave
Strong relationships fuel happiness and productivity. Seek out connections that build you up and energize you. Whether it’s joining a professional network or starting a book club, the relationships you cultivate will provide support and inspiration.
Build positive relationships to energize and inspire you. Here’s how:
Reconnect Intentionally: Reach out to someone you’ve lost touch with and schedule a coffee or virtual catch-up session.
Network Strategically: Attend one new professional event or join an online group related to your industry or hobbies. Aim to make meaningful connections with at least three people.
Give to Get: Offer help, advice, or support to others in your network. Strong relationships are built on mutual benefit.
5. Concentrate and Reinforce Your Goals with Visual Cues
Visual reminders are powerful motivators. Create a vision board or post motivational quotes in your workspace to keep your goals top of mind. Research shows that consistent visual reinforcement helps bridge the gap between intention and action, especially when building new habits.
Keep your goals visible to stay focused and motivated. Practice with these tips:
Create a Vision Board: Collect images, words, and phrases that represent your goals and hang the board where you’ll see it daily.
Post Daily Reminders: Write your goals or inspiring quotes on sticky notes and place them on your computer, bathroom mirror, or planner.
Track Progress Visually: Use a goal-tracking app or create a progress chart to celebrate small wins and monitor milestones.
6. Celebrate and Accelerate!
Recognition fuels motivation. Celebrate milestones—big or small—with rewards that recharge and rejuvenate you. A Harvard study shows that acknowledging small achievements creates momentum for continued progress. Treat yourself to moments of joy and relaxation as you work toward your larger goals.
Celebrating progress boosts motivation and keeps you energized. Here’s how:
Define Milestones: Break each goal into smaller achievements and assign a reward for reaching each one. For example, treat yourself to a movie night after completing the first draft of a project.
Plan Weekly Joy Moments: Schedule something small and enjoyable every week, like trying a new coffee shop or spending an hour reading your favorite book.
Share the Celebration: Involve your accountability partner, family, or friends to join in celebrating your success. Their encouragement will amplify your sense of achievement.
A Final Thought: Spray the Windex!
The key to long-term success lies in small, consistent actions. You don’t need to overhaul your life overnight. Instead, tackle one challenge at a time with the same determination you’d use to clean a smudge off glass. With focus, commitment, and a little creativity, you’ll be amazed at what you can achieve.
By practicing these action steps consistently, you’ll tackle your goals, declutter your life, and create meaningful connections—all with the determination of someone wielding their metaphorical Windex!
Opa! Here’s to a brighter, cleaner, and more inspired year ahead.
Ever find yourself in a situation where someone gives you a free seminar that you didn’t sign up for? Go with me on this brief journey that might just change your perspective on unsolicited wisdom.
True story: I’m on a plane, feeling pretty smug about my Word Find skills. Suddenly, a pint-sized passenger pipes up, “It looks like you could use some help.” My knee-jerk inner voice response was, “Well, thank you, Little Man. Bless yore lil heart!” I was on a roll–what possible help could he lend me at this point? He fires back with: ” I just put a line through ‘em–it’s a lot faster. Hee hee!”
Noticing my first instinct was to challenge this six-year-old to a Word Find duel. But here’s where the magic happens: When I actually stopped to consider his suggestion, I realized it’s a game-changer. Half the time, effort, and ink saved? That’s not just wisdom; that’s efficiency on steroids!
This little anecdote begs the question: When faced with unsolicited advice, can we focus on letting it soak in rather than judging its merits on the spot? Can we practice saying, “Thanks for the feedback,” or “Wow, I never thought of it that way,” and just walk away for now and marinate on it with neutral curiosity?
It’s a tall order, I know. Our egos are delicate creatures, and unsolicited advice can feel like a personal attack. But here’s the kicker – wisdom doesn’t discriminate. It flows when it’s true, regardless of its source. So, why not be open to finding it anywhere or from anyone?
Now, I can hear you thinking, “That’s all well and good, but how do I actually do this?”
I challenge you to try a few wisdom optimizing strategies from this point on:
Strategy #1: The “Thanks, I’ll think about that” technique. This is your go-to move when you’re caught off guard by unexpected advice. It’s simple, polite, and buys you time to process the information without committing to anything. Plus, it makes the advice-giver feel heard. Win-win!
Strategy #2: The Curiosity Approach. Instead of getting defensive, get curious. Ask questions like, “That’s interesting, what made you think of that?” or “How has that worked for you?” This not only helps you understand their perspective better but also shows you’re open to learning.
Strategy #3: The “Test Drive” method. If the advice seems plausible, why not give it a whirl? Treat it like a scientific experiment. Try it out and observe the results. You might be surprised at what you discover.
Strategy #4: The Gratitude Gambit. Even if the advice seems off-base, there’s usually a kernel of good intention behind it. Focus on that and express gratitude. It’s amazing how this can transform potentially awkward situations into relationship-building moments.
Now, let’s talk about why this matters. According to a study by Harvard Business Review, people who are open to feedback (solicited or not) are 42% more likely to rate themselves as effective in their jobs. That’s not just a confidence boost; it’s a career booster!
But it’s not just about professional success. Being open to unsolicited advice can improve your personal relationships, too. An study in Psychology Today found that couples who were receptive to each other’s suggestions reported 35% higher relationship satisfaction. So, the next time your partner suggests a new way to load the dishwasher, you might want to listen up!
Of course, this doesn’t mean you have to take every piece of advice that comes your way. It’s about being open to the possibility that someone else might have a perspective worth considering. As the saying goes, “The mind is like a parachute. It works best when it’s open.”
Let’s dive into some more real-life examples of how unsolicited advice can lead to unexpected breakthroughs:
The Accidental Entrepreneur: If you don’t love, love, love your job…give some serious thought to what you authentically enjoy doing. Perhaps you could adopt a Test Drive side gig and see if it fits. Even if you decided to do it in addition to your real job, you could find a new and recharged energy.
The Reluctant Runner: It all starts with the first step. Walking is a great way to kick off a fitness journey. Plus, you could make it a social meetup to add to the benefits.
I’m a big fan of Walk-n-Talks. Our brains fire off on new dynamics when we are in motion. Add to the synapse sharpness by tossing a small ball from hand to hand while you walk–even if you’re out on your own.
The Cooking Catastrophe: Before you toss that burnt dish over the compost fence, perhaps you could consider the rave reviews your tried-and-true recipes receive. There may be a new Instagram or Pinterest community who can’t wait to try your latest creations.
These stories highlight a crucial point: sometimes the best ideas come from the most unexpected places. By being open to unsolicited advice, you’re essentially crowdsourcing wisdom from the world around you.
But let’s be real for a moment. It’s not always easy to swallow unsolicited advice, especially when it comes from someone you perceive as less experienced or knowledgeable than you. So how do you overcome that initial resistance?
One technique is to practice what psychologists call “cognitive reframing.” Instead of seeing unsolicited advice as criticism, try viewing it as a gift. Someone cared enough to share their thoughts with you. Even if the advice isn’t useful, the intention behind it often is.
Another helpful approach is to adopt a growth mindset. People with a growth mindset believe that their abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work. They’re more likely to embrace challenges and see failure as an opportunity to learn. This mindset makes it easier to receive and consider unsolicited advice.
Remember, being open to unsolicited advice doesn’t mean you have to act on every suggestion. It’s about creating a mental space where you can consider different perspectives without feeling threatened or defensive. Think of it as expanding your mental toolkit. The more tools you have, the better equipped you’ll be to handle life’s challenges.
So, the next time someone offers you unsolicited advice, take a deep breath and remember the Word Find wizard on the plane. You never know when a six-year-old (or anyone else) might just have the nugget of wisdom you need.
Wisdom truly doesn’t discriminate. It can come from the most unexpected sources at the most unexpected times. By being open to unsolicited advice, you’re not just improving your problem-solving skills; you’re cultivating a mindset of continuous growth and learning.
So, go forth and embrace the unsolicited wisdom that comes your way. Who knows? The next random piece of advice you receive might just be the key to unlocking your next big breakthrough. And if not, well, at least you’ll have an interesting story to tell at your next dinner party!
